It’s okay to be selfish…

I met a girl at the gym recently that I have seen around for a while.  She works out really hard and is making great progress.  She asked me if I thought she was too big (as in getting too muscular).  I asked her what she thought.  Her response was she didn’t think so (I agreed with her) and I told her that was all that mattered.  I found out that a person close to her told her that she was getting too big and that she needed to lay off the weights.

When you decide to change your habits friends notice, whether it be you telling them and/or they see differences in the things you do.  Sometimes friends feel threatened by this.  You may have been the life of the party and have now decided to cut back or cut out alcohol.  Or you were the person friends could call when they wanted to go out to eat and now you have decided not to eat out as much.  When I started working out in the gym I went after work regardless of what else was going on.  Friends think that because we make lifestyle changes that we are becoming different people.  This is when friends can start to try and derail what you are doing.  They want the old you and you are trying to become a new you.

So what do you do?  You do what makes you happy and what you need to do to reach your goals.  Friends are going to give you their opinion whether you ask for it or not.  You have some options on what to do after that…  You can explain to them that you have decided to make some changes and you would love their support (don’t try and change them or convince them you are doing the right thing, stand true and firm on your choices).  Sometimes you have to do a little friend cleaning… as in end relationships.  No one needs negativity in their lives no matter what is bringing it on.  To be successful in making lifestyle changes, it can be much easier when you surround yourself with people that are supportive.  They don’t have to do what you do but they should let you do what you want and not try to talk you out of it.

Bottom line is do what makes you happy.  There will always be someone that says you are too skinny, too muscular, too this, too that.  All that matters is what you think and how you feel.  Stay true to yourself and your goals!

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